OK, so I have in mind a really controversial topic today. I mean, everyone seems to have an opinion on this. Are you ready? Are you sitting down? And today’s topic is….
That’s right I’m going there. Keep in mind I don’t have kids, so I am speaking (I think) objectively. So here goes..
First of all, killing a child of any age cannot be right. However, sometimes circumstances just don’t align right for a child to be born. It is a parents right and responsibility to make decisions on behalf of a child, right?
Anyway, here’s my idea to end the debate.
We start by making (or keeping) abortion legal…for now. Meanwhile we work to improve the adoption and foster system. Adoption needs to be faster, easier, and above all, cheaper. Yes we need to ensure a safe home for children, but does it need to take years? The best option should not be a foreign adoption. Prospective parents should consider adopting older children as well. There are thousands of children waiting for a home while you wait for a baby. Adoption should be socially acceptable, financially convenient, and physically easier. There should be massive tax beaks for foster parents. Maybe even scholarships and grants set aside for foster children. (There may be already, I haven’t looked into it.)
At the same time we need to be working on improving contraception. If we can find a way to make vasectomies completely safe, they could be mandatory at a certain age, then when a couple wants to get pregnant, they can be reversed. I know any surgery has risks, but maybe that won’t always be true, and then, who knows? And vasectomies are safer even now than a woman getting her tubes tied. In the mean time, condoms and pills need to be easily available. Yes, even to teenagers. Face it, teenagers will have sex. Keeping them ignorant and unprotected won’t stop it, it will just lead to teen pregnancy and disease. Contraception of any kind should be completely covered by insurance, even surgical contraception.
Once prevention has been as close to perfection as we can get it, and adoption/foster care is improved so children are never without a family, then, and only then can we talk about making abortion illegal.
Now, while I think it should be legal, I don’t think abortion should be easy. There needs to be mandatory counseling both before and after. It should not be covered at all by insurance. Assuming the father is known, both parents need to consent. If, however the father does not consent, he should have to take responsibility, physically and financially for raising the child. After all, the mother is the one taking all of the risks and dealing with the physical consequences for the rest of her life.
Abortion shouldn’t be cheap or easy, and it should NEVER be the first choice, but until some very important changes are made, it shouldn’t be illegal either. Sometimes horrible things are also necessary, or at least, they are the lesser of two evils.